Win or Learn, Never Lose. Failure goes from being "bad" to being "good" if a positive lesson is taken from it. Develop a culture where it is OK to take risks, try something new and occassionally fail. And when that happens encourage your child to learn from their failures by helping them to reflect on what happened.
1) I tried a Crossword today but it was too hard. Should I give up?
2) What does a "good" failure look like? (if you learn from it etc)
3) What would happen if you never fail at anything in life?
Win or Learn, Never Lose. Failure goes from being "bad" to being "good" if a positive lesson is taken from it. Develop a culture where it is OK to take risks, try something new and occassionally fail. And when that happens encourage your child to learn from their failures by helping them to reflect on what happened.
1) I tried a Crossword today but it was too hard. Should I give up?
2) What does a "good" failure look like? (if you learn from it etc)
3) What would happen if you never fail at anything in life?
Some research shows that it takes 10,000 hours of deliberate practice before a skill is mastered - or 3 hours a day for 10 years! By this definition your child does not need to "master" everything they attempt, but it might help to remind them that getting good takes time and perservance. Mozart, the music composer for instance, started playing Piano from age 3 but did not write his masterpieces until his 20s.
1) You have mastered walking! How many steps do you think it took?
2) Did Mozart have natural talent or did he practice a lot of Piano?
3) What are you practising lots right now?
Some research shows that it takes 10,000 hours of deliberate practice before a skill is mastered - or 3 hours a day for 10 years! By this definition your child does not need to "master" everything they attempt, but it might help to remind them that getting good takes time and perservance. Mozart, the music composer for instance, started playing Piano from age 3 but did not write his masterpieces until his 20s.
1) You have mastered walking! How many steps do you think it took?
2) Did Mozart have natural talent or did he practice a lot of Piano?
3) What are you practising lots right now?
A failure is a learning moment if we ask kids the right question. Use a real and recent situation if one exists, but otherwise possible scenarios are failing maths test / not making football team / fluffing lines in school play. With each one help your child to see that it is not necassarily becasue they are poor at maths / football / drama - rather maybe they didn't understand algebra / they need more shooting practice / they can learn to memorise lines better
1) You might have failed maths test from lack of revision. Why else? (test was harder than anticipated, feeling poorly that day etc)
2) Of these, what is the most likely explanation?
3) So what can we do about it for next time?
A failure is a learning moment if we ask kids the right question. Use a real and recent situation if one exists, but otherwise possible scenarios are failing maths test / not making football team / fluffing lines in school play. With each one help your child to see that it is not necassarily becasue they are poor at maths / football / drama - rather maybe they didn't understand algebra / they need more shooting practice / they can learn to memorise lines better
1) You might have failed maths test from lack of revision. Why else? (test was harder than anticipated, feeling poorly that day etc)
2) Of these, what is the most likely explanation?
3) So what can we do about it for next time?
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